i got the result for my negotiation test and scored 15. i guess it was part of Ardra's effort also, since she did support me during the test. though Mrs Suma said we settled the problem a bit too fast, I still feel that it was an improvement of mine when i did try to manage to not mess my own words up again.


then we came to the emotional "test". we paired a group 2 people and one would have to tell the other one secret that may shock the other. I tried very hard to think about what i should have tell Jessica (it was not a big secret by the way, but it's offensive to some people so I don't feel like telling it). and when she reacted as she was shocked and asked me why, I started to regret that I chose it to tell.

though later it came out that her reaction was somewhat an act, I still could not get rid of the worry feeling. as for Mrs Suma said, the reaction towards your words will many times make you scared/regret/worried/upset/down. to me, that was a double sides lesson, that every words I say may hurt others and that the truth I tell may get another reaction if I can learn how to make it sound acceptable.

out of the studying a bit, but I guess now I can understand why people say the cold of English was an effect of the Rose Wars long ago. they tend to not talk much, since even a very small wrong word can lead to an awful consequence.

it was the first lecture that we took in Dhouby Ghaut and we welcomed Linda, our ECU lecturer. a bit out side of studying, but i was actually impressed by Linda's blonde hair and wonder whether if it was her true hair colour or not. well simply I'm just interested in light thing, and right when she stepped to the classroom, her appearance caught me. although the most important thing is not about how a person looks, it is still true that the appearance will give the first impression about you to people.

Linda explained to us more about negotiation and asked us to separate to different groups to explain different methods in negotiation to other groups. we already read and were lectured about it, but it was kind of new to know what other classmates think and understand about it, hence I found out that different people don't have the same opinions, neither got to think about one definition in the same way.

Various perceptions' issue appeared clearer when we came to play the birthday game. we had to line up in order due to our birth days but we were not allowed to open our mouths but use body languages to make people understand it. we indeed finished pretty fast, not to mention some small tricks, but it had much fun to know how it would happen when you lose your easiest way to communication (i wondered how deaf and mute people could deal with it though). surprisingly to know Ayyub was born in October too, so we were teamed up together with Singil.

we came to train more in negotiation skills, started with being a problem between employee and employer. i was the employer and i had to ask Singil to change his attitude while he didnt't want to. my biggest weakness appeared clearly in that, especially when i had to do it with Singil - the calm type of person. when it comes to serious things, I'm always too straightforward, hence make the communication unfriendly. therefore, the longer I negotiated, the messier my words became. just as the same time when i tried to negotiate with Ayyub and Sya, things ended up as I was the one nearly lost

Isn't it hard, to be able to keep yourself calm and cool always?

The manner of Botticelli is easy to recognise because of the hair styles among others. And he used to paint "a tempera" (a mix of pigments, water and egg), it was not oil-painted. At this time, oil wasn't discovered (it was by Van Eyck in the first half of the 15th century). The paintings a tempera have a special look, quite thin, quite delicate but less luminous than oil. Botticelli has a very recognisable style so if you see strong resemblances between the two pictures, it should be Botticelli. There may be an other possibility though, Botticelli had a student, Filippino Lippi, that took a lot of his specially soft style.

We can also say Botticelli is recognizable by his really precise line, as he is part of the Florentine school that was very based on the line (in comparison to the Venetian school that was more into colour for example). We could say much more on the subject I guess but the goal is not to make everyone sleep, so... Take what you want...


----taken from Maxence Raffi
since the day i knew him, i started to believe that there are people who live for art

Self awareness is the first component of emotional intelligence which all leaders have. People with it are able to work with a demanding client and understand the client’s impact on her moods and the deeper reasons for their frustration and will be recognized by their self-confidence.

People with self-regulation are in control of their feelings and impulses, therefore will create an environment of trust and fairness. People who have mastered their emotions are able to roll with the changes and deal with change and news. However, people like that are sometimes seen as lack of passion.

As for Motivation, people with leadership potential are motivated by a deeply embedded desire to achieve for the sake of achievement. Those with high motivation also remain optimistic even when the score is against them and they can overcome failure with the combination of self-regulation. They also often feel committed to the organizations.

Although seems unbusinesslike, empathy is understood as thoughtfully considering employees’ feelings – along with other factors – in the process of making intelligent decisions. It is particularly important today as a component of leadership for at least three reasons: the increasing use of teams, the rapid pace of globalization and the growing need to retain talent.

Social skill is friendliness with a purpose: moving people in the direction you desire. It is the culmination of the other dimensions of emotional intelligence. Socially skilled people are adept at managing teams. Therefore social skill is considered a key leadership capability, no leader is an island.

Mười tám lộ quân chư hầu không giết nổi Đổng Trác, mà một thiếu nữ đào tơ liễu yếu như Điêu Thuyền lại giết nổi Trác. Ba anh em Lưu, Quan, Trương hùng liệt không thắng nổi Lữ Bố, mà chỉ một nàng Điêu Thuyền lại thắng nổi. Ôi, lấy chăn chiếu làm chiến trường, lấy son phấn làm khôi giáp, lấy sóng mắt nụ cười làm gươm sắc giáo nhọn, lấy mày ngài làm cung nỏ, lấy nước mắt nũng nịu làm tên đạn, lấy lời tình tứ ngọt ngào làm chiến lược mưu cơ. Xem thế thì cái bản lĩnh của "Nữ tướng quân" quả là tuyệt cao cường, đáng sợ lắm thay!


my crappy translation, please take in mind it's just the main ideas, not exact words of the author:

million soldiers could not kill Dong Zhuo but a fragile girl like Diao Chan could. the three grand brothers Liu, Guan, Zheng could not beat Lu Bu but only one lady Diao Chan could. Alas, the chamber was her own battle field, cosmetics was her own shield and armour, took the look the smile as the sword and spear, took eyebrows as her own bow, and tears as arrows and bullets, as for strategies and tactics were actually sweet words with flirting. how superior the talent of such Lady General, so frightening!








... go to wikipedia, search for Diao Chao if you dont know her

well what i can say about this game? I'm even not sure whether it is listed as "game" or not, but for me i justify it as a game. It's kind of text game I think, the system is like a normal sims dating game, you have some choices to choose in a certain situation, and they will lead to different endings.

But the kind of game Im talking about is not for dating, it is mostly about complex stories that by choosing your own choice, you will find an end, or a piece of the whole big story. i recommend you the 2 games Hallucinate and Fianca, their main category mostly is "angst".

Hallucinate is a sad ballad which you find your own way. In the game, "You" used to be a killer, until you got into an accident and was sent to hospital. You lost your memories and got no idea about you being a murderer until a girl in the same hospital came and asked you to die, for her sake as revenge. how you react will be the end of this game. none of the ending is truly happy, and also none of them is truly sad. but in each of them, you will find something, even very slight, what you are lack of.

Fianca is more about filling up the story which means each ending gives you another piece of the "You" in game. that's also why Fianca is much longer than Hallucinate. there is no opening neither ending, since i cannot spoil anything. you will have to find out yourself

the 2 games can be download here. mediafire link and only 2.6mb
please contact me if the link is unavailable






PS: this is the first ending that I got when i first time played Hallucinate:

the girl hates You, since you killed her family. but You fell in love with her visiting You everyday in the hospital. You would die for her sake, but You dont want to die alone, and both of you ended up together.
The ending is: "happy"

a nice poem taken from a tale by Thai Ba Tan




Wish the Prince just once..

Vietnamese source
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Note: my translation is used for non-profit purpose and with respect for the author
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Thai Ba Tan is my favourite author though his main career is translating rather than writing. but i wonder what could make his writing so much formal yet still informal. different from lots of authors at his ages and even younger ones, his words are just so young and modern. they dont carry hard thing, dont express any agony or cruelty. just simply they are words, like a normal diary of a guy who actually was written all by him.

his work contents light sadness, strong feeling and passionate, and and the end is always a surprised ending that even can make you laugh.

but that ending, after a few times reading will make some somewhat sad, when you can see the meaning within it



miracle ^^ i love his work!