i got the result for my negotiation test and scored 15. i guess it was part of Ardra's effort also, since she did support me during the test. though Mrs Suma said we settled the problem a bit too fast, I still feel that it was an improvement of mine when i did try to manage to not mess my own words up again.


then we came to the emotional "test". we paired a group 2 people and one would have to tell the other one secret that may shock the other. I tried very hard to think about what i should have tell Jessica (it was not a big secret by the way, but it's offensive to some people so I don't feel like telling it). and when she reacted as she was shocked and asked me why, I started to regret that I chose it to tell.

though later it came out that her reaction was somewhat an act, I still could not get rid of the worry feeling. as for Mrs Suma said, the reaction towards your words will many times make you scared/regret/worried/upset/down. to me, that was a double sides lesson, that every words I say may hurt others and that the truth I tell may get another reaction if I can learn how to make it sound acceptable.

out of the studying a bit, but I guess now I can understand why people say the cold of English was an effect of the Rose Wars long ago. they tend to not talk much, since even a very small wrong word can lead to an awful consequence.

it was the first lecture that we took in Dhouby Ghaut and we welcomed Linda, our ECU lecturer. a bit out side of studying, but i was actually impressed by Linda's blonde hair and wonder whether if it was her true hair colour or not. well simply I'm just interested in light thing, and right when she stepped to the classroom, her appearance caught me. although the most important thing is not about how a person looks, it is still true that the appearance will give the first impression about you to people.

Linda explained to us more about negotiation and asked us to separate to different groups to explain different methods in negotiation to other groups. we already read and were lectured about it, but it was kind of new to know what other classmates think and understand about it, hence I found out that different people don't have the same opinions, neither got to think about one definition in the same way.

Various perceptions' issue appeared clearer when we came to play the birthday game. we had to line up in order due to our birth days but we were not allowed to open our mouths but use body languages to make people understand it. we indeed finished pretty fast, not to mention some small tricks, but it had much fun to know how it would happen when you lose your easiest way to communication (i wondered how deaf and mute people could deal with it though). surprisingly to know Ayyub was born in October too, so we were teamed up together with Singil.

we came to train more in negotiation skills, started with being a problem between employee and employer. i was the employer and i had to ask Singil to change his attitude while he didnt't want to. my biggest weakness appeared clearly in that, especially when i had to do it with Singil - the calm type of person. when it comes to serious things, I'm always too straightforward, hence make the communication unfriendly. therefore, the longer I negotiated, the messier my words became. just as the same time when i tried to negotiate with Ayyub and Sya, things ended up as I was the one nearly lost

Isn't it hard, to be able to keep yourself calm and cool always?